Why People are Hesitant to Connect
Please stop this
It was our first date. I noticed that he kept gazing at me with admiration which I found quite amusing.
As we were about to say goodbye, he confessed that he wanted to compliment me on my hair, but he hesitated because he wasn’t sure how I would take it.
Wow. A good-intentioned compliment was withheld because he didn’t want to be seen as inappropriate or trigger an angry response.
Stop withholding natural behavior.
We all need to live and act authentically — that’s how we connect naturally with other humans.
You want to give a compliment? Give it. You want to hold the door? Do it.
Oh. You don’t like that?
Then read on.
You make your problems everyone else’s
I once had a friend who did not like to be hugged or touched.
The first time I made an attempt to hug her, she very politely and directly said she did not like being touched. I’m a hugger, but I accepted this and honored it.
