This Question Helps Me Get Unstuck
Unexpectedly, I had a free day.
It was a blessing, as I had grown overloaded with things I wanted to do, learn, figure out, fix, and address. Some work changes had created a sudden pressure to start moving toward a new goal, and I wanted to get moving fast.
However, my focus and energy were totally scattered as I tried to navigate how to approach the new day.
As my attention bounced between various action lists on my computer, another list I kept in my monthly planner, and various sticky notes on my desk, I stumbled across something I had written down months ago that made me pause.
It told me exactly what to do next.
The person I want to become
My next step was not an action, but a question.
I need to ask myself something that would direct my next move.
How will the person I want to become handle what I need to do next?
Well. That put my day to an immediate halt.
I had a vague idea of who I wanted to become… but it still felt fuzzy to me. the “how”. The “why”. The “ultimate goal” I was after.
It was a big question.
I decided to ask myself a much easier question.
Start with the negative
When you aren’t sure about what you want, sometimes it’s easier to start by identifying what you do NOT want.
In this case, I asked myself, “What kind of person do I NOT want to be today?”.
Kind of a weird question, but it worked.
I didn’t want to be unproductive or distracted. I didn’t want to be tired, or low energy because I ate bad food or overate. I didn’t want to be an over-spender, a messy person, or someone who has too much clutter.
I identified the traits, characteristics, and behaviors of what I did not want to be today.
And then I looked at my list of action items and I scratched off ones that aligned…