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Here’s Why Your Girlfriend Feels Lonely When She’s With You
Four behaviors that leave your partner feeling totally disconnected.
I was once guilty of staying in a relationship even though I felt profoundly lonely in it. He saw that I was distant, but concluded that I was just being “moody” or was “dealing with something” and consequently, left me alone hoping that the next day I’d wake up as a different, happier person.
At the time, I struggled to define why I felt so lonely with him. Why wasn’t I feeling connected to him? It all came down to four simple things.
#1: You’re always on your phone. If you are alone with your girl and you’re looking at your phone or computer more than you are looking at her, you’re telling her that she’s not as important or interesting as what is on screen. Social media can wait. Be with her now so your time together matters. I do my best to minimize my phone use when I am with my man, and when I do, I engage him in what I am doing so he doesn’t feel ignored.
#2: You don’t ask questions. If you aren’t showing a sincere interest in your partner, she’s going to feel like a casual acquaintance to you. The quality of your conversations determines the depth of your connection.
