Too much confidence can hold us back. — Good enough? I was just about to leave for my first big tango festival when a message popped up on my phone. It was from a friend raving over the amazing dancers at the festival and how every dance was the “best one ever”. …

Do this first to shift the energy. — A rough year It had been a rough year for me. Between an ongoing noise issue with a neighbor, feeling severely burned out with work and struggling with food sensitivities, I had been feeling overwhelmed and fatigued. One day, at the height of my angst, I opened my gratitude journal. I noticed that…

It only takes a moment to be unforgettable — I was struck by her I was at the front desk, checking out after an appointment when an adorable elderly woman entered the office. She was a tiny woman; perhaps 5 feet tall with a very slight build. As she hobbled over to the counter where I stood, I felt a tap. I turned and…

This works for meeting new people and trying new things too. — Sitting out “I’m not getting asked to dance,” she said. And I could see why. She was a skilled dancer and a beautiful woman with the warmest soul. But no one noticed because she sat buried in the corner of the room looking royally annoyed. I do a lot of partner dancing…

Let me prove that it’s one big delusion. — French Fries Several years ago, I gave up french fries. I absolutely loved them and found them irresistible. After a month, I lost my desire for them. I was able to enjoy them by inhaling that delicious aroma, but that’s all I needed. I was perfectly content to not eat them. It…

It’s time to bring back those smiles and flirtatious comments. — Cat-called I got cat-called at the mall today by a 30-year-old girl. I was dressed in a tight designer dress and heels; the kind of outfit that commanded attention even though lately most men gaze past me like I don’t exist. But not her. As I walked by I saw her…

Try one or all of these — these are all easy to sustain all year. — Instead of new year resolutions, I do this ritual in January to set the stage for the new year. Doing this mid-month gives me a chance to settle down from the new year hoopla and really focus on what I want for the year ahead Burning Bowl This is about letting things…

There is a gentle swell infusing the belly of possibility. As it delicately unfolds before me it begs me to honor its fragility. “Don’t crush it” — it calls,. “Don’t question me” — it says. Just let me be, you watch and see for I will surprise you. Let me…

All this chaos is dividing us, when it should be connecting us. Here’s one small step out of this. — The Great Polarization Every morning I wake up and wonder who I have to call to stop the planet so I can get off. The world has never been perfect, but most people were compassionate, reasonable, and willing to recognize logic and facts. We held an appropriate degree of suspicion with what we…